It is really interesting how a girl tries to attract the guy who she has a crush on. Most times they appear very pretty and sexy, which will be enough for guys. But what if she's neither pretty nor sexy? I guess she can be funny or smart. <He’s just not that into you> has mentioned that there are four categories: sexy, cute, smart, and funny. But if you watch <Love and other drugs>, you will find that ‘she’ is attractive to ‘him’ only because she is resistible. So, hopefully this would make a little sense: (a) attract an immature guy with sexiness or beauty; (b) attract a mature guy with intelligence; (c) attract a play-boy with resistance. I should call the (a) seduction rather than attraction, in fact.
What I want to talk about more is the (b). Who will like an over-smart person? Nobody will. Why? We feel threatened by those over-smart people. Accordingly not a single man wants to be threatened by his girlfriend or wife ever. Then how should a girl make an attraction with intelligence? My suggestion is to use the intelligence on everything but your boyfriend.
If you are an accountant, don't use your counting ability on your boyfriend's account. Similarly, if you are a psychologist, don't 'use' your psychological knowledge analyzing your boyfriend's mind – he is not your rat, or guinea pig as someone called.
I suppose that people feel naturally insecure while interacting with a person with psychology background no matter how the person acts. Or maybe those psychologists are by no means conscious of how they hold a set of invisible questionnaires to test people every day. Probably the two views are both true.
How many different kinds of relationship do we have with others? We need to learn more how to deal with it. We need to fulfill the different roles.
What I want to talk about more is the (b). Who will like an over-smart person? Nobody will. Why? We feel threatened by those over-smart people. Accordingly not a single man wants to be threatened by his girlfriend or wife ever. Then how should a girl make an attraction with intelligence? My suggestion is to use the intelligence on everything but your boyfriend.
If you are an accountant, don't use your counting ability on your boyfriend's account. Similarly, if you are a psychologist, don't 'use' your psychological knowledge analyzing your boyfriend's mind – he is not your rat, or guinea pig as someone called.
I suppose that people feel naturally insecure while interacting with a person with psychology background no matter how the person acts. Or maybe those psychologists are by no means conscious of how they hold a set of invisible questionnaires to test people every day. Probably the two views are both true.
How many different kinds of relationship do we have with others? We need to learn more how to deal with it. We need to fulfill the different roles.